365 days ago we got on a flight to Bangkok that I’d spontaneously booked on a day off work. Let me divert you back to the first blog post I ever wrote… Why for me it takes two to tango… I thought i’d post again about what we’ve learnt in our year on the road together so here goes. I will start with some pictures from before our year on the road.
Okay so that was more than some its really hard to chose! And it really is hard knowing where to start, I mean we’ve seen and done so much in the last year there has been a lot of fun, for the last year we have pretty much spent every waking moment together and this comes with its own challenges. Challenges that I think we’ve embraced. To be honest I don’t think there is anyone else in the world I could of done this trip with and still come out the other side smiling.
When you’re out here this far away from home sometimes it can feel like you only have each other. This can be good and bad for different reasons but its worked really well for us. He’s the first person I speak to in the morning and the last person I speak to at night. We’ve found that traveling as a couple can make it harder to make friends you generally have to approach people rather than the other way around. Thats not to say we haven’t met some totally amazing people – you all know who you are and we love/miss you all!!
Its taught us to compromise…So why does it work for us? I think the first thing is being independent… we have spent a lot more time together than we would if we were at home but we’re both independent people and neither of us are scared to put our foot down or do what we want on our own. Its nice that I can go out on my own if Joe doesn’t feel like it and vice versa. And I honestly think thats where a lot of people who travel together go wrong. They live in each others pockets and feel like they have to do something they don’t want to just because its on the other guys bucket list. Of course compromise is key though and this has led to some of our best decisions. I really did not want to sit on a motorbike for 8 hours a day around Vietnam. I thought this was a terrible idea, I thought Joe would probably kill us both and it would all end in tears. But then we came to a compromise… or in this case Joe got me drunk enough to agree! In hindsight it was one of the best things we’ve done on the whole trip and i’m so glad he persisted with the idea. This leads me on to my next point its taught us to trust each other, or in some cases left us with no other option! I think most people can agree that trust is really important and its definitely something we have a lot of! We have laughed together, cried together and then laughed about it all over again in the morning. We’ve over come things together and worked through things and the whole last year has definitely brought us a lot closer together.
It’s taught us not to care about what other people think… (not that I did anyway) We’ve met people that ask us “how do you do it?” or make remarks like “I could never travel with my partner” and we’ve met a lot of people who have split up out here or left someone behind and regretted it. We’ve also heard a lot of “when are you going to grow up and settle down” and a lot more of “when are you going to come home”. There are probably people at home reading this amazed that we’re still at it or wondering how we’ve done it. I don’t think this is for everyone and i’m not even really going to recommend it because thats for you to decide… what I will say is that so far, it works for us. We can’t think of a better way we could have spent the last year and its worth every minute. Its easy to judge other peoples relationships but… we made the decision to do this and, ask us if we regret it? You can probably guess the answer…
Not for one second. We’re proud of what we’ve achieved along the way, we might not have a mortgage or be “settling down” – whatever that means – like some of our friends but we’ve made that decision together and wouldn’t change it for the world. And about the coming home thing for those who are wondering… WE DON’T KNOW!!!! We have a few different plans and are unsure of which one to pursue next currently, some of them include coming home and some of them don’t so you’ll have to wait and see.
Now to the most important part traveling with Joe has taught me that I’m lucky, but most of all its taught me that sometimes thinking with your heart is the best decision you can make… Joe is my financial advisor, my bestfriend, my chauffeur, my navigator, my life coach, my prince charming, he’s my soulmate and my hero. He provides me with entertainment and does a great impression of the herbal essences advert! He makes me smile and he’s taught me that I can do anything (even ride a motorbike with out any major accidents -yet). He’s even managed to teach me to ski which deserves a medal alone! Joe makes me want to be a better person and that can only be a good thing. How the hell he’s put up with me I wonder sometimes but he has and i’m really grateful for all the adventures we’ve had. It has been the best year ever and we have big plans for the next one so watch this space!! I used to have a reputation for being the drunkest girl at the party, sadly thats not a reputation I seem to be getting away from in the near future. Lucky for me I met the drunkest guy at the party and that seems to take the pressure off a bit!
“Love is about all the changes you make and not just three small words” Frank turner
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30.08.2017 (Week 39 of challenge) Books Read:
- A Dance With Dragons 1: Dreams And Dust – George R. R. Martin
- A Dance With Dragons 2: After The Feast – George R. R. Martin
- Far From The Madding Crowd – Thomas Hardy
- Comfort food – Kitty Thomas
- Mark One – John Hindmarsh (must read sequel at some point)
- Girl Undone – Marla Madison
- The Sick House – Ambrose Ibsen
- The Kite Runner – Khaled Hosseini
- On The Road – Jack Kerouac
- Survivor The Triumph Of An Ordinary Man In The Khmer Rouge Genocide – Chum Mey
- The Little Old Lady Who Broke All The Rules – Catharina Ingelman-Sundberg
- Bone Pit: A Chilling Medical Suspense Thriller – Bette Golden Lamb and J. J. Lamb
- Sabotage – Dale Wiley
- Dracula – Bram Stoker
- First They Killed My Father – Loung Ung
- Lucky Child – Loung Ung
- Automated Alice – Jeff Noon
- The Girl In the Picture – Denise Chong
- Orphan X – Gregg Hurwitz
- The Prophet – Kahlil Gibran
- A moveable Feast – Ernest Hemmingway
- Chez Stinky – Susan C. Daffron
- The Gift – Margaret McHeyzer
- The Curse – Margaret McHeyzer
- The last survivors – T. W. Piperbrock
- Boys – Scott Semegran
- War and Peace – Leo Tolstoy (Among others still a work in progress but I am making progress!)
Status: TWELVE WEEKS BEHIND!!